Good men don’t last. Are you familiar with this phrase? Or how about the phrase “nice guys finish last?” For some girls at least, their ideal prince charming is not the sweet fairy tale character we’ve heard about who comes to the rescue of a damsel in distress and fulfills the dreams of his beloved Cinderella. Some girls are hopeless romantics for a bad boy that makes you almost want to beg to fix him. You know, the type of guy who sends chills running down your spine, the one that leaves you wondering whether it is butterflies in your stomach or bees stinging. The guy who’s always busy, angry but still hot, does not talk to just anyone, all the ladies want him, you basically have to keep tabs on him because the moment you turn your neck for a second he will be all hers. It’s like bad boys are the creme de la creme.
WHY DON’T GOOD MEN LAST?
Good guys are always committed as well as invested in the relationship or situation and with commitments comes a lot of demands.
Because they invest their time, energy and effort in the relationship/situation, they want to be appeased, appreciated, pampered and they also want their efforts reciprocated. These demands are basically responsibilities and I think most of us would agree that we dislike responsibilities.
Good men are too available and convenient.
Who wouldn’t want such a person? Well, some girls like someone who is “hard to get,” so they love to chase and just complain about Greg being unavailable. Personally I prefer someone who’s available because I see no point of having someone unreliable in my life or someone I can not call for convenience. I don’t know about you.
Good men are always down for a relationship.
So if you’re a hit and run, one night stand type of guy, friends with benefits type of guy you don’t qualify under the good men category. Do you? Anyway, my point is good men want something serious because they don’t play games. They need loyalty and love the most, but unfortunately girls being girls, they will always root for the playboy type of guy and cry a river when their heart is broken into pieces.
Most girls are after good genes and good investments
That’s the problem you see. Girls want it all. Money, looks and power. Ideally, they want the three in one. Physically attractive, sexually appealing, educated, family oriented and with a potentially high income of course. As a matter of fact a high income is the mother of them all. What’s my point? Girls will opt for material pleasures over love or a good, caring heart. After all, a good heart won’t pay the bills.
Tall, dark and handsome
Ideally, this is the term used in the embodiment of masculinity. It is such a cliche. Normally women fancy dating a tall, dark and handsome man, but what they fail to consider is the challenges that come with dating such a person. I’m not insinuating that all TDH men are a pain in the neck, my point rather is that women tend to set their standards unrealistically high, and when they are eventually disappointed, you’d almost think they never saw it coming. Looks can be deceiving, so the fact that a person is physically attractive is no guarantee that they have an attractive character.
But who is winning in the end? The good guy or the bad guy? I’m rooting for the good guy. I think the bad boys are just around to toughen us and teach us lessons. The experience makes one appreciate having a good man around. You start valuing actions over words, consistency, reciprocity and you never settle for less. The bad boy thing in my opinion is just a phase, to be honest no one wants to settle for a fuck boy or as we call them today “man whore.”
There comes a time when you want to settle and you grow tired of playing the cat and mouse games with a grown man who can’t decide what he wants. Believe you me there’s good men out here, but I hear they are all taken. I suspect they were taken while you were busy chasing the wrong ones. I’m not a love doctor, but when it comes to love, you should lower your standards and at least be reasonable. Otherwise your playlist is gonna be full of those break up hits and sad songs.